{"id":92,"date":"2017-04-16T21:03:29","date_gmt":"2017-04-16T21:03:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/pandaproject\/?p=92"},"modified":"2020-07-30T16:47:50","modified_gmt":"2020-07-30T16:47:50","slug":"interview-l1-beatriz-accioly-on-harassment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/interview-l1-beatriz-accioly-on-harassment\/","title":{"rendered":"Interview: L1 Beatriz Accioly on Harassment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We recently interviewed Beatriz Accioly, a female L1 judge from S\u00e3o Paulo, Brazil.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/pandaproject\/files\/2017\/04\/judgebida.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/judgebida.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/judgebida-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/judgebida-125x125.jpg 125w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Please tell us a little about you and how you felt when you came in contact with the magic community. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I learned about Magic 15 years ago. I was 13 and shopping with my old sister and we went to a bookstore. While we were waiting in the cashier, I saw some boxes on the shelf and I asked to take a look. I thought it was interesting and asked her to buy it for me. It was something similar to the duel decks we have today; two decks with 40 cards each, with a learn how to play guide and stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So I started my collection, started do trades in the anime events in Macei\u00f3, my hometown. But, back then, in Macei\u00f3 we didn\u2019t have neither tournaments nor judges, I had no idea such things existed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I played for three years but I stopped playing for a good while. I came back to Magic two and a half years ago. It was when I met my ex-boyfriend, who is also a judge. When we were dating, he told me about the tournaments, games, stores and I dived right in this forbidden love again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I decided to become a judge, what pushed me forward was the fact that we only had one female judge in Brazil at that time. I loved that aspect of the game and I wanted to strengthen the female presence in Brazil. I want to be carry a presence at events and motivate other girls and women, and show them that they can play the game they love and not be afraid of being isolated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately our community has problems, and we\u2019re still very immature in confronting diversity. \u00a0At almost every event, there\u2019s always that one person that ruins everyone\u2019s experience by being unaccepting and generally rude and bigoted. However, the more minorities, not just women, who participate, talk, and question, the faster we create changes towards a healthier and safer community. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some stores have a very aggressive atmosphere, which discourages a lot of new players to participate. It\u2019s frightening, it\u2019s like the first day at school where all other people already know each other and you are the newcomer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Due to our cultural and social constructions and paradigms, games in general, not only Magic, but video games, sports, are still seen as \u201cboy\u2019s stuff only\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At least in my generation, women were not taught to face those kinds of places and to play, to fall, to compete &#8211; we were taught only to compete amongst ourselves for male attention\u2026 very toxic.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was always like \u201coh, you are a girl, don\u2019t do that, don\u2019t run, don\u2019t play in the mud, etc, etc\u201d. And still, the ones that did it, stayed hidden for years due to harassment, verbal aggressions and sexual abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I sense that this has changed in the last three years, but still, we face serious retaliation just because we want to play anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-95 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/pandaproject\/files\/2017\/04\/10-210x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"210\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/10-210x300.jpg 210w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/10-88x125.jpg 88w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/10.jpg 312w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 210px) 100vw, 210px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One example is when a fellow player asked me to help him open a store, placing me in charge of developing the store\u2019s identity and managing the store\u2019s website and social networks. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We started interacting with each other a lot because we were having work-related meetings. This person started having feelings for me, but I didn\u2019t, as the project was only work for me. He started making huge Facebook posts with hints about his feelings for me, which made me feel extremely uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I tried to talk with him, but he\u2019d always deflect the subject or try to talk about something else. Until the day I confronted him about his feelings for me, he sent me messages and creating drama, saying things like \u201cnobody supported your work, but I understand it\u2019s important to you and I stand up for you\u201d. He also would put me down and make him look like a Prince Charming.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was a really tough situation, which culminated with me not working with that project anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My biggest concern is that there is still a taboo on talking about harassment, as we feel scared of being judged or blamed. We are afraid that people would question our actions and think that we are guilty of being ungrateful. So while we talk very little about harassment, it\u2019s important to confront the issue, because only then people will realize that it is a real problem and it really does happen. We also hope that store owners will become aware of the harassment and stop pretending that \u201cit never happens in my store\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We need to talk about this, for everyone\u2019s sake. A lot of women have the constant thought \u201cOh, if I change how I act [and subdue myself], the harassment won\u2019t happen again\u201d. Because society has taught us that if we restrain ourselves and be well behaved and quiet, it will be better for us, and we won\u2019t be harassed or questioned. But that\u2019s not the case.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Was there ever a time where you felt welcomed to a store? <\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes! When I started playing, I used to go with my boyfriend and the other men in our local store, and I felt intimidated because that was a new environment for me. There was a once a day where I got a bye in the last round and the judge that had dropped from the tournament saw I was alone sat down to talk with me. He taught me some strategy and we talked about Magic. It was a kind gesture.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What would make you want to play Magic at events more?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The store owner and judges receptiveness to feedback. It should be a clean store, with good lighting, calm and civilized players, and no excessive yelling, immaturity, or vulgarity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If there was one thing you could say to all Magic players, what would it be?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I face the problems I encounter as just like I do everything else in my life; As a woman, I don\u2019t have a way to escape just by not doing things or stop going somewhere. I continue going to persevere and facing problems just so other women can feel empowered to do so too. I want to make those places more welcoming to other women that aren\u2019t as comfortable confronting biases and prejudice as I am.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-94 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/pandaproject\/files\/2017\/04\/88-210x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"210\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/88-210x300.jpg 210w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/88-88x125.jpg 88w, https:\/\/blogs.magicjudges.org\/multiverse\/files\/2017\/04\/88.jpg 312w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 210px) 100vw, 210px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>What are some suggestions to help Wizards of the Coast and the Magic community become more inclusive?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m really glad that Wizards has an active policy regarding equality, diversity, and respect. Judges and players as a community still have a lot to learn about these concepts, but it is comforting that there are people who believe in diversity and work for a better environment. Wizards\u2019 support is incredibly valuable.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For the players; listen to people around you, observe more, don\u2019t pretend that there\u2019s no issue just because it doesn\u2019t happen at your store.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To judges and store owners; take a stand, be responsible. You are the ones that take care of tournaments and events of all types, and even if you disagree with something, respect everyone. As a business owner and a person, you should value everyone\u2019s experience and feelings as valid and important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look for support, talk, speak up about problems, ask for opinions, don\u2019t close yourself, we are not alone and only by discussing that we are going to make things better. I know it\u2019s scary, but if we keep quiet, nothing is ever going to change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>What is a welcoming Magic atmosphere?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A place where everyone feels comfortable and safe, enjoying the game in the presence of friends, and a place where we can be ourselves without being afraid of judgment or prejudice.<\/p>\n<p><b>Anything else you&#8217;d like to say?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If I and other women, gays, lesbians, trans give up, stop fighting for equality and justice, we all lose. We inevitably are going to be harassed, bullied, stalked or mistreated, but we have to look for support and talk about our problems with others, and bring the injustice in Magic and in life to visibility. Otherwise we will never be heard, and nothing will change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>This article was written by Antonio Zanutto, L2, Campinas, Brazil.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We recently interviewed Beatriz Accioly, a female L1 judge from S\u00e3o Paulo, Brazil. &nbsp; Please tell us a little about you and how you felt when you came in contact with the magic community. I learned about Magic 15 years ago. 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